Femdom Marriage Monday – The Lifestyle

Before I begin this post, let me say that while I recognize that some lifestyle folks have an issue with pro dommes, I will never be one of them.  I’ve met several pro dommes and every one of them have been kind to me.  I think pro dommes are wonderfully empowered women and I’m pretty sure I will continue that part of my education (at least to some degree).

But there’s another side to kink that I’ve been very curious about and wondered how I would find along my journey.  The lifestyle side.  Those folks that just get together to be kinky cuz…

Well, the universe continues to take care of me and I continue to be awestruck and grateful for such wonderful new friends and experiences.  On Saturday night, I had the privilege of accompanying a remarkable couple who I am honored to call friends to a private party with some of their kinky friends, which is to say that this was something of a “who’s who” of the LA kink community.

Intimidating.  I had no idea what to expect so I was crazy nervous going in.  And yet, as has been my good fortune thus far on my journey, this too would prove to be a very positive and welcoming experience.  Everyone (well, almost everyone) was super nice.  They had to know that I was a newbie and yet many of them were warm and welcoming.

As it turned out, this was as vanilla of a cocktail party as any that you’ve been.  More or less.  I’m not sure I saw even a single collar.  And yet, pretty much everyone (including the caterer apparently), was kinky.  I just loved it.

I did know a few folks from meeting them at previous events, classes, munches, etc and it was particularly nice to chat with a couple of them with whom I’ve shared thoughts previously about the journey.  And it’s especially wonderful to have such friends that are willing to share their experiences and answer my newbie questions without even the slightest hint of arrogance or condescension, or judgment.  These are real people.  And they seem to want to welcome new friends into the lifestyle in a positive and encouraging manner.  I’m honored and humbled and grateful to have found such an amazing circle of people.

To think that my wife and I could be a part of such a circle one day is the stuff of dreams for me.  Lifelong dreams.  It must be so self-affirming to have a circle of friends who openly acknowledge and accept the D/s dynamic of each couple, regardless of who is dominant or submissive.  How proud is the submissive man whose wife hosts a cocktail party such as this?

I’ve knelt before a woman, looked up at her with tears of gratitude and thanked her.  And the intensity of the moment shook me for days.  It still actually does a little.

How genuinely happy is the man who can kneel before a woman and say “I love you”?

OK, I officially have wife-fever again…

Marry me?

kneel

2 thoughts on “Femdom Marriage Monday – The Lifestyle

  1. missmiafallon says:

    I’m delighted to continue reading about your progress. What a fun night!

  2. alphabyday says:

    I’ll always be grateful to you for being my catalyst and empowering me to accept myself. Thank you, my friend.

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